There's no need to talk a lot about how our work can sometimes be very stressful. 

Some reasons include getting paid too little for the work we do, coworkers talking about each other behind their backs, groups forming within the team, some people trying to only look out for themselves, and a boss who never says "thank you" even when you work really hard. What I've just mentioned is only a small part of the problem, and there are many other things that can make work feel stressful. For example, there's a person named Arif who has worked at his company for more than two years, gets paid less than he should, and feels like no one notices how hard he works. 

He decides to leave his job. He believes he can easily find another job because he has a lot of experience. He thinks to himself, "I've had enough. Working here is taking years off my life," writes a letter to quit, and leaves (though leaving a job isn't usually this easy, let's just pretend it is). As if that wasn't enough, he even has a big argument with his boss when he's leaving.

After quitting, Arif feels upset for a few days but then starts to look for a new job. While resting, he sometimes wishes he hadn't argued with his boss. But it's too late for regrets. Despite sending his resume to job openings every day for several months, he can't find a job for four months. The stress of looking for a job and pressure from his parents start to get to him.

Eventually, after not being able to find the kind of job he was looking for, he has to take a job that's not as good, which means he feels like he's starting his career again but behind where he used to be.

The story I just told is based on what some people have told me over the years about being without a job. The details in this story, except for the names, are true.

Arif had good reasons to leave his job. But let's think about what he could have done differently:

Arif was influenced by his coworkers who kept saying they were going to quit soon, but they never did. He had quit his job over 4 months ago, and those same coworkers were still at the company.

He could have waited a bit longer and looked for a job without quitting his current one first. He forgot that because of the pandemic, there weren't many job openings, and there were a lot of people with experience like him looking for jobs. He could have asked around, even among the companies he used to work with, to see if they had any openings, but he didn't do any of that.

Arguing with his boss when he quit wasn't the best idea. He forgot that in our country, all the big companies know each other somehow. Maybe, while he was unemployed, someone from a company where he applied asked why he left his last job. They might have called someone from his old job and found out about the argument. No one wants to hire someone who argues a lot. Now, even if he says, "They made me do it, but I really love my job," it doesn't help. High-level people tend to believe someone at their own level over a regular worker. He should have kept his cool.

Maybe if Arif had talked to his boss or the head of his department with a list of good reasons why he deserved a better salary, they might have listened to him.

He could have talked about things he didn't like at work with his coworkers to try to make things better.

I mentioned all these things because they're important. If you're facing problems like Arif, be careful so you don't make choices you'll regret later.

It's very important to control our emotions. When we're angry, we might make decisions that are bad for our careers and our personal lives.

Since we spend a lot of our day with our coworkers, we should remember that we might start to act like them without realizing it.

Thank you for taking your time to read this. 

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